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I do not believe a chromosomal disorder is a good thing. Since the divorce rate is almost 100% there should be lots of women there who would not shun you for having a child with a disability. Page 1 of 8 , , , , , , , fedhill, considering the number of women who would not carry a child to term if the testing showed this type of disability, your pool will be decidingly smaller. One thing that has bothered me in reading this thread are the disparaging remarks and apparent double standards being assigned to women who may not have interest in becoming involved in your situation.


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THEY will understand what's involved and since MOST TIMES the woman gets abandoned with a child, they will be climbing ALL over each other to connect with a wonderful guy like you. After reading your posts in this thread, I see none of those qualities you say you would get. Shame on the ones who dump you.. Be grateful for what you have in life.


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May be some one that also had a special needs child might be more willing to deal with it. But, you really only need to find one great fish, not a school of fish. I would want the kid s if any to have these same qualities. After reading your posts in this thread, I see none of those qualities you say you would get. This was the first time I had meet her son, but she had meet my kids a few times. They will see it as a good thing that you didn't run away. A single mother with an autistic son has launched what she believes is the UK's first Internet dating site for parents of children with special needs. Calling it a blessing not only is not true, but it may discourage some from getting or having the test done and taking the higher road.

Mum’s dating woes inspire website - I would want the kid s if any to have these same qualities. I'm not sure if this is because the dad's want it this way, or because mom is usually the caregiver.


dating sites for parents of special needs uk

Page 1 of 8 , , , , , , , fedhill, considering the number of women who would not carry a child to term if the testing showed this type of disability, your pool will be decidingly smaller. I would leave that part out of it completely... People often make decisions out of fear and ignorance... If you make her down's an issue, so will everyone else. Dude, as a single father myself, who got them into adulthood withOUT killing them and starting over just some humor folks.. I have to say.. I have a lot of empathy for you. You are finding out how shallow they are right up front. Basically women most women, not all are so narcissistic they want to be your NUMBER ONE. Well too bad for them to pass up a great guy who SEEMS to have been abandoned by a MOTHER and left not only with a child, but a special one. They are too selfish and too self-centered to admire and respect your commitment and want SOME of it too. Fascinating statement about womanhood, ya know? I would say that your best bet in finding a TRUE nurturing and understanding woman would be at a support group for other parents with special needs kids. THEY will understand what's involved and since MOST TIMES the woman gets abandoned with a child, they will be climbing ALL over each other to connect with a wonderful guy like you. While it will mean you'll BOTH have challenges to deal with, at least you'll be with a woman who understands. Shame on the ones who dump you.. Kudos to you for stepping up. There are plenty of people with a big enough mind, and a good heart that won't hesitate to date someone because of a special needs child, especially one as angelic as a downs child. Most women, I'm sure applaud you also for taking care of her, but they also realize that leaves little time for them, and sadly alot of woman and some men , are too selfish, and that is why they won't date you. But there are some very kind hearted souls out there also, that would admire you as a person for what you are doing, and would be glad to date you..... Hope you find one.. My experience has been that people who do not have a special needs child often don't understand what it takes and so they will accept the intrusion into their regular life for so long, then when it becomes burdensome, they tend to take a walk. I haven't met many single fathers of children with disabilities.. I'm not sure if this is because the dad's want it this way, or because mom is usually the caregiver. I haven't found much success in groups either because I've never met a single dad at one of them.. It's always been mom's and dad's together or just mom's.. I think there are probably women out there that will date you of course, but will they have what it takes to stay? She is out there. My Mom was a Special Ed teacher for 20 years, my siblings and I grew up with her kids visiting us and us volunteering in the classroom and for Special Olympics. I would accept a child like your daughter with open arms. Have you tried becoming involved in Special Olympics? Be patient, the woman lucky enough to capture you and your little one's heart is looking for you too. I dated a women that had a son that was extremely hyper and we tried a beach date with the kids and he was just a pain for my kids to be around, it was not much fun for me too. This was the first time I had meet her son, but she had meet my kids a few times. Any way being the first try I gave it one more try with the same results; the kid brought the whole party down for me and my children. I told the women I liked her, but it was not fun for my kids to be around her son. I said we can date, but no more family dates; I had all ready told her I was not looking for long term any way. We never had a new date. I might have been willing to date this women more date not marry if I was not a single parent, but as a single parent I have to consider how it will effect my kids quality of life also. Will it have a positive effect, a negative effect or no real impact at all. I believe most of the time if you date a single parent with a special needs child it will have a negative effect on your kids if you do any type of family outings. May be some one that also had a special needs child might be more willing to deal with it. When I date I look for fit women that can do things that me and my kids like to do without slowing us down to much. I would want the kid s if any to have these same qualities. I date because it is fun, if it is not fun why do it. Great for you standing up for this guy. A woman worth being with would admire him not avoid him. Better to find out before breaking your heart. The challenge is looking for women who come from the ME generation. I know, there are men out there who are just as shallow. It just seems the responsible guys get overloooked for the Rico Suave's of the world. I've known many people over the years who have special needs children, and unfortunately, it tends to be very limiting in many areas. I'm glad to see you getting some recognition and support for what you're doing. It can be hard enough as a single parent dealing with the day to day aspects of raising any child, so I'm sure all the additional things that come into play with a special needs child can be overwhelming. It will require that you find a partner with an extraordinary amount of patience and understanding, just as it would if you were a single mother in the same position. The idea about getting involved in the special olympics or a similar organization is brilliant, simply because you are much more likely to find someone there who can truly relate and has genuine empathy for your situation. It's human nature really, that we don't really have a firm understanding of another's situation unless we ourselves have experienced it. One thing that has bothered me in reading this thread are the disparaging remarks and apparent double standards being assigned to women who may not have interest in becoming involved in your situation. I have read hundreds of threads regarding single parents, particularly single mothers, who are being chastized and criticized for expecting someone else to get involved and help them raise other men's children. I would imagine that there are many women that feel the same way. I know I'm opening myself up for attack here, but I'll use myself as an example. I just had my 40th birthday, and you are in the age bracket that I would be looking in if I were single. I wouldn't have any interest though, because my youngest child just turned 19. I'm not interested in dating anyone with children as young as 9, regardless of special needs or not. It isn't because I'm selfish or narcissistic. No one that knows me would ever use those words to describe me. I spend much of my spare time working with victims of domestic violence, and raising money for our local homeless shelter. It's simply because I've already raised my family, and I'm ready to move into the next phase of my life. My point is, you need to make sure the women you're trying to connect with are in a similar place in life as you are. That's why a group like special olympics or something similar would probably be the ideal place for you meet the best match for you. You'll not only be much more likely to find someone there who can truly relate to your situation, but your futures will likely be on similar paths as well. Since the divorce rate is almost 100% there should be lots of women there who would not shun you for having a child with a disability. In fact you would be a hot commodity since you have custody. They will see it as a good thing that you didn't run away. But personally, I wouldn't discount a guy simply for having a child with a disability. Of course I grew up with people who had disabilities, so it's no big deal for me. Being completely honest with you, I dont know if I could do it. Being friends I could do no problem, I have absolutely no problem with people with mental or physical disabilities, but to be even partially responsible is a big deal. I have been known to become easily frustrated, Im not always the most patient of people and I have to work my butt off to be patient and calm with my own non-disabled child. I wouldnt feel like I was being fair to either of you if I was to try and then realized I wasnt capable of putting the same or more effort into your child who may need that little extra effort. Maybe just a little insight into the heads of these women. A special needs child makes it even harder. It is hard for someone to understand the time and extra care a special needs child needs as well the time consuming task of doctors appointments and what not. My son had a stroke before he was born so I feel for you but remember the wonderfulness of your daughter will help weed out those not worthy of either of you they see it as a burden but the right woman will see it as an extrodindary gift which it is. Mind you, the blonde bikini babe with her nails all done and what not might reject the idea, but good women won't. Keep hunting, or fishing, or whatever we're supposed to be doing. I've always been in to helping out with special needs children and adults, so I don't think a real woman would have a problem with it. Mind you, the blonde bikini babe with her nails all done and what not might reject the idea, but good women won't. Im both a real and good woman. My concern would be for the child and my ability to be a good role model and fair to them. I think I might flesh out something on your profile... I think a casual mention that she has downs can go here, no big deal, just that she does. As someone above said, she has raised her family and doesn't want to start over. I went out with someone last year who had custody of two younger children and he mentioned to me that a lot of the women he contacted in our age range did not want to get involved with him because they didn't want to raise another family or start over. So I think you are going to see a lot of that. But, you really only need to find one great fish, not a school of fish. ESPECIALLY Down Syndrome -- what delightful individuals! Get your daughter involved in Special Olympics and other activities in which you will be around other parents of kids with disabilities. You'll probably meet lots of caring single moms -- and volunteers! My youngest two boys are special needs children, one with broad spectrum autism disorder, PDD, and verbal dyspraxia and the other with Down syndrome. After I had my youngest, I began the adoption process to adopt a little girl with Downs. I had to put it on hold temporarily due to some health issues that came up, but still plan to adopt sometime in the future. Children with Downs are simply blessings as all kids are. I have never met a child more loving, or more joyous than my son with Downs. I can not imagine a life without him. What I do, is I bring it up early in the conversations emails. I would think higher of them if they came clean from the start and said it was too much for them, than I would if they waited and told me later, after things became more serious. If things come to a screeching hault when they find out, count your blessings that it happened sooner than later. Be up front with them from the beginning. The condition leads to impairments in both cognitive ability and physical growth that range from mild to moderate developmental disabilities. I do not believe a chromosomal disorder is a good thing. Knowing there is no god or gods, I all so understand there is no such thing as a blessing any ways. What people call a blessing never fails to make me go WTF. There are test for this now. Calling it a blessing not only is not true, but it may discourage some from getting or having the test done and taking the higher road. Any women over 30 should consider having the test done, all women over 40 should have the test done. This would be a man made improvement, all most like a blessing, but it would be a real thing. The condition leads to impairments in both cognitive ability and physical growth that range from mild to moderate developmental disabilities. It is not his fault he has the abnormalities, he is still human, he is still lovable, and from the way you sound he is, and always will be, a better person than you are. He shows no hate- only acceptance, only love and kindness. After reading your posts in this thread, I see you show none of those qualities. Your entitle to your opinion. No, I would not deliberately wish a disability of any type on anyone, however, disabilities happen. When they do, I prefer to accept the person who is disabled- whether they be my child, a neighbor, a spouse, whoever they may be. And yes, my son is a blessing. I almost miscarried when I was pregnant, but he held on. The testing that the doctors did in the first 5 months showed no signs of Downs, or any other abnormality even if they would have, it would have made no difference on how I feel about my son. Because of issues caused by what the doctors found, an amnio was out of the question- because the risk of it causing preterm labor was too high, and they already had verified that my son would need surgery at 1 day old. If he was that premature, chances he would make it were slim. By the 34th week, other signs were showing on the ultrasound, and then the doctors told me to plan on him having Downs. He was taken a month early, and then the doctors verified the Downs. Tests are never 100% accurate. And even when they are, some people are able to accept the facts, and choose to keep their babies, loving them regardless. You could learn a lot from a child with Downs. Please do not spew your hatred and disregard for life to me. Not everyone is able to accept. I choose to avoid people like that. What I was doing was pointing what is not a blessing and you seem to have that opinion now too. Testing for down syndrome should be done more then it is. Diagnostic tests are about 99% accurate in detecting Down syndrome and other chromosomal abnormalities. It might not have been right for you, but it is an option for other people out there. You say every one is entitled to there opinion. Your the one that seems like they are filled with hate to me. May be being around a child with down syndrome is not as magical as you make it out to be. You did not learn a lot from a child with Downs. After reading your posts in this thread, I see none of those qualities you say you would get. What I see is someone in a lot of pain. For that I am sorry and I don't want to add to it, but I don't want to see others go through it also. Why I recomend the test and why I made my post. The truth can be painful, but it is still the truth. Sometimes I wish they tested for ignorance before birth, sure would make raising a child with disabilties alot easier if they removed those folks from the gene pool. LOL I don't know about many others, but talk about an ethical question. They test and tell you you have a baby that MAY develop autism.. They test you and tell you that you have a baby in you that MAY become a drug addict. Ooops get rid of that one. They test you and tell you that you have a baby in you that may grow up to be just like Free to be me.. Ooops, get rid of that one. Designer babies, designer lives, whatever. Be grateful for what you have in life.


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May be some one that also had a special needs child might be more willing to deal with it. But, you really only need to find one great fish, not a school of fish. I would want the kid s if any to have these same qualities. After reading your posts in this thread, I see none of those qualities you say you would get. This was the first time I had meet her son, but she had meet my kids a few times. They will see it as a good thing that you didn't run away. A single mother with an autistic son has launched what she believes is the UK's first Internet dating site for parents of children with special needs. Calling it a blessing not only is not true, but it may discourage some from getting or having the test done and taking the higher road. Online catholic dating uk Gratis dating script Gode råd dating

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